wow. its been way too long. i almost dont recognize you anymore. i was going through the 100+ posts that kept this blog alive – all i felt was disgust. WHO WAS I? i wrote so angrily, so childishly and so blatantly. i felt so disconnected with the person that i was that i deleted the bulk of those entries. all thats left behind, are the ones i still want to be associated with. the dark years are over for me, a new light has begun.

what happened between then and now? i cut myself a proper break from the nasty chain of hopping from one relationship to another. for two years, i remained single. it wasnt easy at all, especially when all ive ever been for nine years straight, was in and out of relationships. to make matters worse, i was 30 and all my friends were either married or with babies. i was on the odd chair they had to pull in at group gatherings infested with couples. i couldnt contribute when the moms spoke about which pram in the market was the best, or matters on breastfeeding or the arduous birth labour they experienced etc etc. dads in the group would try to set me up on dates with their single friends… ah my dear friends πŸ™‚ thank goodness i quickly got over my insecurities of not fitting in to societal norms.

i chose to see the world. so i embarked on adventures.

made my way to america with a close girlfriend. we went skydiving – best experience ever! i wanted to get over my fear of heights, it was so liberating. then i met a guy at a random bar, we chatted and the next thing we know, we booked ourselves on a flight to explore bueno aires together – it was the most spontaneous thing i did ever. as the months grew to years, i found myself getting stronger and more okay living the life as a singleton. i enjoyed movies alone, enjoyed meals alone (people-watching helped too) and i started to enjoy holidays on my own; flying around the world to meet friends. i felt such a sense of empowerment and confidence, and of course, real happiness. i was able to enjoy sunsets without having the need to share that moment with anyone. i felt invincible.

and then he came along. he is always positive, always has a bright smile for everyone he meets, is genuinely interested in getting to know people… in short, he is everything that i am not. i think it was his full-sleeved tattoos on both arms that attracted me to him. that bad boy facade didnt fool me. it was a nice balance to his genuine good-naturedness. he brings out the best in me and friends have said that ive never looked happier. there’s a spring in my step and my entire being was just fuckin glowing all the time πŸ™‚

i am 33 this year. looking back now, i am so proud of how far ive come in terms of self-realisation and personal growth. if i had a chance to live my life all over, id choose to live this same life.



remember this?

well i got the bloody thing removed! BOTH MOLES! GONE!!! did it just before chinese new year and just removed my stitches last week. happinesss!


i got sent this challenge and i found it to be rather interesting so i thought i put it out here. who knows? u might have a pretty wicked list of films that i might wanna check out.


1. list the first 15 films you’ve seen that comes to mind and that you love.
2. don’t take too long to think about it. complete it in no more than 15 minutes.
3. post your list of 15 films under “comments”.


in German. directed by Oliver Hirschbiegel.


based on the book by Hunter S Thompson. directed by Terry Gilliam.


in Korean. second installment of The Vengeance Trilogy. (the best of the three, in my opinion). directed by Park Chan-wook.


directed by James Cameron. won 11 oscars. (dont judge me, ive watched this over 30 times.)


in English/French. directed by Julie Delpy. a gritty real-life story about love. no sugar coated nonsense here.


original script by Quentin Tarantino. directed by Eli Roth. the concept of killing presented in this film got me thinking for weeks.


directed by Roman Polanski - one of the most powerful films, about the resilience of the human spirit, that ive ever seen.


a Tarantino masterpiece. Christoph Waltz's performance was stunning.


directed by Tim Burton. this is my happy film. i watch it whenever i need to renew my faith in the magical things in life.


in Italian. directed by Roberto Benigni (who also won an oscar for best actor in this film)


directed by Mark Herman. one of the most disturbing, yet beautiful, film endings ive ever seen.


documentary by Peter Joseph (watch it for free by clickin on the link above the poster)


based on novel by Chuck Palahniuk. directed by David Fincher. this film is quotes galore. class A.


based on a German novel of the same name by Bernhard Schlink. written by David Hare and directed by Stephen Daldry. very intrigueing story of love and discovery.


directed by Rob Reiner. i turn to watching this whenever life gets me down.

those were my top 15 at top-of-mind recall. what’s yours… i wonder πŸ™‚


ive always been a tomato-based pasta typa gal. i love the clean sweet-sour sharpness of tomatoes as opposed to the “jelak”-inducing cream-based varieties. (rich foods tend to make me feel “jelak” so i stay away from those where possible) ive had a pretty full-on weekend. being up at 630am, to host events, on TWO CONSECUTIVE DAYS caused my ageing body to launch itself into protest mode. the only cure was to whip up my no-fail comfort dish: rigatoni (my fav typa pasta) in tomato sauce with chunks of my fav greens aparagus + broccoli, crisp-to-perfection streaky bacon and a generous sprinkling of pine nuts, topped with thick freshly shaved slices of parmigianno. SUNDAY DINNER TREAT β™₯

RIGATONI - i got this packet from jones the grocer, these get al dente in 8minutes. for single serving, only 2 fistfuls of rigatoni's needed. resist the urge to add more to what might seem like a pathetic amount in the boiling pot. PASTA EXPANDS so dont go overboard.

BABY ROMA TOMATOES - these are sooo sweet and will give this pasta a nice balance in flavour. i love my tomatoes so ive used 8 of these babies for this dish.

FRESH BASIL - why use dried when you can use fresh? and if you have these growing in a pot in your kitchen, you're daaamn lucky. cuz they're fresh, you can add loads. i used about 8 leaves.

PINENUTS - these are a lil pricey but worth every single cent imho. love the nutty buttery crunch it adds to my salads and pastas.. that is IF i dont go overboard snacking on 'em whilst prepping my dinner. absolute fav fav fav.

ASPARAGUS - i prefer medium spears; has more crunch/bite and they're less stringy. i've used 5 spears for single serving of pasta.

BROCCOLI - 6 tiny florets. i know these may seem alot in addition to the asparagus but i LOVE my greens. cant ever have too much of 'em. TOMATO SAUCE - i like Hunt's cuz its 100% natural. i HATE HATE HATE those bottled pasta sauces, vile tasting. use fresh tomato sauce and you'll taste the difference.

STREAKY BACON - used 5 strips of bacon for this dish. i prefer streaky bacon to back bacon cuz streaky has more fats which will flavour the olive oil its fried in and the overall texture of fried streakies add a comforting crispy fattiness to this pasta which i love.

prep the basil, roll 'em up into an herb joint.

slice thinly, set aside.

add the rigatoni to a boiling pan (observe the seemingly pathetic amount of pasta? well im tellin ya, thats the perfect portion), add loadsa salt - this will be your only chance to add flavour to the pasta. if you like your pasta bland, then obviously dont add any. add boiling water and cook away for 8mins or til al dente. (i pre-boil some water in a kettle and pour over the pasta. its just faster via the kettle than sitting cold tap water on the stove to boil... the latter is akin to watching paint dry. ive got no time for that. life's too short.)

cut the bacon up in coarse chunks and throw them into a pan ON HIGH HEAT, with some extra virgin olive oil. make sure they're spaced out. you want them fried to a crisp, not broiled.

almost there... still a tad too pale for my liking.. be patience, cant rush perfection.

TAH DAAAH! crispy bacon! dish out onto kitchen paper, set aside. (leaving flavoured oil in the pan)

throw in diced fresh garlic, asparagus spears and broccoli florets into the flavoured oil and stir fry for a minute.

throw in the mini roma tomatoes WHOLE. those babies will cook nicely on the inside and give a burst of liquidy sweetness like that of oven baked tomatoes. stir fry the lot quickly for a coupla minutes.

add half a can of tomato sauce..

throw in the shredded basil, stir around, mix well.

the rigatoni should be done by now. drain and add to frying pan. stir and mix well. turn heat to low.

add some fresh ground black pepper.

throw in the crispy bacon at the last minute and mix well. i wont add any salt cuz the pasta's flavoured and the bacon bits are salty. turn off heat. get ready to plate up.

add some pine nuts at the end (i add loads cuz im a nutter)

topped with some freshly shaved parmigianno-reggiano. under the italian law, only cheese produced in the parma, reggio emilia, modena, bologna and mantova provinces can be labelled "parmigianno-reggiano". the same cheese produced outside of these italian provinces are labeled as "parmesan".

MY COMFORT PASTA, enjoyed while watching The Iron Chef on the food network - BLISS.

and there you have it, my comfort pasta recipe. to round off the weekend, i’d like to share this mind-blowingly amazing video with you. a good friend, Kenny, posted this on my FB wall and i thought it to be UBER GENIUS. i think you might enjoy it as much as i did.

(if you cant see the video, click HERE)


shots taken using my LUMIX LX3.

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inner arm ink jobs hurt so beautifully bad



almost done. face of calm.



my ink: Freiheit. it means freedom in german.



ink transfer onto skin



pleasure in pain.



blood and ink. oh what a beautiful mess. almost done.






“as we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed to let you down probably will. you will have your heart broken probably more than once and its harder every time. you’ll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. you’ll fight with your best friend. you’ll blame a new love for the things an old one did. you’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you love… so take too many pictures, laugh too much and love like you’ve never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back.


was at TAB over the weekend for Don Richmond’s acoustic set. twas a very intimate and chillax vibe, with guest performers Vanessa Fernandez + Mark Bonafide + the Don & Drew reunion, all made for a purrfact late sunday evening do. all our friends were there so it was wise-crack/corny jokes galore over pints of beer and erm, single malt whisky on-the-rocks for me πŸ™‚

Don, ever the natural performer, entertained us with his sheer talent, heart/soul and natural sense of humour. we laughed here and there when don cracked a joke or two between his songs. the night however took a sharp turn when a member of the audience, a 16 year old boy (how he managed to sneak into TAB, i dunno), started reacting, albeit over enthusiastically, to don’s performance! and almost instantly, all of us started to twist and writhe in side-splitting bursts of laughter at this boy’s seemingly crazy display of inhibition…

i laughed. guilty-as-charged. but it also got me thinking after.

this boy’s probably slightly “screw-loose”, granted. but i found it heart-warming and refreshing to see such an unbriddled show of support, otherwise unheard of from us “sane” people, towards an artiste performing onstage.

and i thought to myself: how lovely would it be, if we could all break down our walls of inhibition and dance and sing along, as and when we like, with huge smiles and not a care at all in the world..?

β€œA person needs a little madness, or else they never dare cut the rope and be free”Nikos Kazantzakis